Ok. I’ve been pretty busy lately. And as I was trying to keep my life feeling balanced, (which I was doing a fairly good job at- and believe me, this hasn’t always been the case,) I found I was starting to feel ungrounded, you know, a little nervous and off kilter. My mind was beginning to worry that I might not have enough time for everything I was hoping to do.

So, I closed my eyes and told myself I had plenty of time. I opened my eyes and noticed, I still felt shaky. So, I turned to a very easy “confidence restoring quick fix”. What was this quick fix?

I squirted some Rescue Remedy, by Bach into my mouth. This is the spray version of some flower essence. It’s created from pure flowers, flowers that have been identified to create a feeling of calmness, patience and feeling more grounded. It really, really works! I encourage you to give it a try sometime and see for yourself!

Hey, if you like this tip and could benefit from collecting more creative ideas to help you boost your confidence and let go of that negative self talk- you’re welcome to join us for a f*ree phone seminar tonight. I reserved 100 lines for the call, and honestly they have filled up fast, the last I knew we had approximately 25 spots left! Sign up soon before you miss a great opportunity!

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When you see an argument arising between your kids and your spouse, or if friction begins to arise between friends or other family members do you have a habit of trying to jump in and smooth things over in some way?

I get it! I get it better then you may imagine! (wink, wink)

So, you probably think of yourself as striving for the greater good, having peace in your relationships and family- that’s your goal!

But, here’s the clencher:

Your effort to bypass arguing among your family sometimes CREATES more arguing. Your spouse or other family members don’t want you to step in. Even if they’re headed down a path which looks completely disastrous to you, they do not want your help, advice, gentle guidance, understanding or even a peep out of you. They want to play it out THEIR way- not yours.

So, what do you do?

You try the best you can to LET GO!

Let the argument go, let it grow into chaos, if you have to block your ears, step out of the house, separate yourself.

Why?

Because the people involved need to figure this out themselves. And, by the way, take solace in the fact that you can share advice or guidance at another time, but in the heat of the moment LET GO! We never learn our own lessons if someone keeps stepping in. You have a heart of gold to want things to be more harmonious for everyone, but harmony at all times is not possible. So, embrace this idea and let go. Let both arguing parties “do their thing”! And later, when the time is right, ask them if they would like to talk.

I assure you, they will be more apt to change and improve the situation if they get a chance to really get into it themselves- you know, get down and dirty with the other person!

**By the way, let me add a disclaimer here- if physicality is involved of course you don’t turn the other cheek, but we’re talkin’ good ol’ fashion yelling and arguing here- nothing beyond!

Ok. I’m still working on letting go at times. I’ve grown enormously in this area, but guess what? I’m human and that old, “just let me help them make it better” side of me will still emerge at times.

Guess what I find happens when I succumb to the urge to step in and “help”- sometimes I make the situation better and sometimes I make it worse. And comparatively, guess what happens when I don’t step in? Sometimes the situation gets better and sometimes it gets worse!

So, the reality is, it really doesn’t make a difference if you step in, you just think it will! The bigger picture here is, you’re preventing lessons from being learned if you step in.

So lets all journey together and keep on steppin’ back and letting go!!

This week’s Upgrade Tip:

Look around to see where you can step out of the picture more and let go! Then have a go at it! And from there keep on tryin’!!!

I wish you well and as always, thanks for listening!

Anyone able to fully relate? How have you handled situations like this? What has worked? What hasn’t? I’d love to hear! Please post your comments so others may learn from you as well! Thanks so much for sharing!

Speaking of letting go, one of the greatest things a person can let go of is Negative Self Talk. Man, criticizing yourself is really stifling. It can hold you back from having a great relationship, it will affect your ability to be successful and you end up one too many times making yourself think you’re not good enough! This is so common, you are so NOT alone. If you’re ready to move through being critical of yourself and to finally see how wonderful you really are and, not only see it, but BELIEVE it, AND consistently function from this place, then join us! Join us for a F*ree phone seminar that will help you to rock your world of self criticism and open your eyes to how great you really are!

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Have you ever wished you could be perfectly clear on what your purpose in life is, feeling like, if you knew you could more steadfastly head in that direction and then in turn, hopefully have everything in your life begin to fall into place?!

You could say good-bye to working at an unfulfilling job or engaging in unfulfilling activities. You’d have something in your life that added zest, happiness and heaps of good energy to your whole being!

So, how can you uncover what your purpose is? Well, many people will tell you, you can meditate, journal, take personality tests, connect with psychics, etc… But the truth of the matter is this:

My answer is two-fold, by the way:

First, just follow your FUN! If something feels fun, pursue it! I don’t care if it seems frivolous and trivial, don’t judge it, if you like it, do it!!! It can be dancing (a personal fav. of mine), reading a good book, watching a movie, attending a seminar. Keep following your fun. Begin to notice what you like to do. What are you most attracted to? Don’t over analyze, just notice and continue to follow whatever is feeling good.

Things that feel good to us are things that we’re in alignment with. And, things that we’re in alignment with are things that reflect a part of our soul, our purpose. Following what feels good is like following a path to your purpose. You don’t always know where that path is leading, but heck, you sure can have a great time getting there!

2nd part:

It’s how you show up.

A good friend of mine Cathy Whelehan, who is a yoga instructor, recently said, “It’s not what you do, that has you living your purpose, but how you show up.” You could be sweeping the streets, it doesn’t matter! It’s how you show up when you’re doing this. It’s how you show up in your life. This is our real purpose, the one Big thing that is in our control, and will have us living our purpose, or not!

If you have fun while you’re cleaning your bathroom- heck that’s living your purpose. If you laugh while your back is in pain- yup this is living your purpose. If you can make the most of the comfortable and the UNcomfortable stuff that life can send your way, well, this ultimately is living your purpose.

So, in my humble opinion, when you follow what feels fun, let yourself feel good AND make the most of your life- trying to really show up in a way that reflects what you feel in your heart, well my beautiful friend, you’re living YOUR purpose!!

This week’s upgrade tip:

Think of one area in your life where it’s been difficult to show up in a way you feel good about. Ok. Once you have this area in mind, now make a commitment to yourself to try, the next time friction arises here, to “show up” differently. To respond differently: with more love and laughter. With more understanding.

Good luck! And, if for some reason you aren’t able to show up differently when that next tricky situation arises- that’s ok. Be gentle on yourself, a lifetime of habits don’t go away in a day. Acknowledge yourself for trying and for being aware. Bet showing up differently is right around the corner for ya too!!

As always, thank you for listening.

By the way, I’d love to hear from those of you who have a go at showing up differently and following your fun! What happened? Did it work out? Any attempt is a success! I invite you to post your comments! Thanks so much for sharing!

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